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MY WIFE SOILED MY REPUTATION, Said ‘I’m A Chronic Womaniser’ —Pastor.



•He went for his wedding, but lied he was going to camp to pray —Wife.

A 48-year-old pastor, Nosa Abume, has approached an Igando Customary Court in Lagos, Lagos State, to nullify his 17-year-old marriage to his wife, Mrs Favour Abume, whom he accused of defaming his character.

“My wife is making statements which are injurious to my reputation. She keeps telling people that I am a chronic womaniser,” he said.

According to the News Agency of Nigeria (NAN), the petitioner said that his wife had even invited the police to arrest him.

“She invited policemen to arrest me and they tortured me in their custody.

“I took the matter to the village and she was summoned by the elders who asked her to buy a goat as a fine for ordering my arrest, but she refused.”

The estranged man pleaded with the court to terminate their marriage claiming that the love he once had for his wife had faded.

Responding to the allegations, the 43-year-old teacher, Mrs Favour Abume, accused her husband of adultery.

“My husband is a womaniser. He sleeps with different women both single and married on our matrimonial bed.

“My children had caught him several times having sex with women in our house.

“I saw his chat on Facebook where he told a woman that he was a widower, begging her to marry him.

“There was a day he told me he was traveling to the camp for prayers, but went to have a wedding with another woman in the village.

“When he brought the new wife to Lagos, he stopped me from attending his church saying his new wife will replace me.”

The mother of four said that her husband evicted her from their apartment in 2016 and brought in their neighbour’s wife.

“Few months after he married the second wife, he started dating our neighbour’s wife.

“He chased me out of the house, told me to go back to my parents’ house that he is no longer interested in marrying me and our neighbour’s wife moved in.

“He did not allow me to go with my children, claiming that I did not bring any child from my father’s house when he wedded me.

“Many of the members left his church due to his infidelity.”

According to her, Nosa no longer pay their children’s school fees and they are always sent away from school.

The court president, Mr Adeniyi Koledoye, urged both parties to maintain peace and adjourned the case till January 20, 2022 for judgment.


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Founder of Jewel Hive Initiative, Oluwatoyin Falaiye sits with Chude Jideonwo, host of #WithChude, to discuss dealing with and surviving adversities and her new book: “Diamond in the Rough.”

In this episode, she recounted leaving her village in Akure, Ondo State to visit her aunt in Lagos, who later adopted her.

After the visit, Falaiye insisted she wanted to stay back in Lagos, being fascinated by the new sights and experiences she had.

She said: “At the age of 10, I was raped by a neighbour’s son.

“As a young girl who had just left her village and was new to the ways of the city, I had no understanding of what it meant to be a virgin or to experience bleeding as a result of rape.

“I just felt a boy had injured me.

“After the incident, the neighbour scolded the boy and sent him away.

“The neighbour then cleaned me up and warned me not to tell anyone about what happened.

“I wish my story ended there.

“However, two years later, my adopted father began to molest me, and that went on for seven years – night after night.

“It’s almost always unbelievable to explain to people that there was someone who came for your body for seven years.

“The days I escaped being abused were the days when I started menstruating, those were my days off from abuse.

“I’ve also had questions like: ‘Why didn’t you tell anyone?’

“Well, I was threatened not to tell anyone, and that if I did, I would be sent back to the village and would die after seven days.

“I didn’t want to die, and I didn’t want to go back to the village.

“Furthermore, despite attending a public school in Festac town, Lagos, I was already the bright student in my class.

“I always used to say, sexual abuse was the price I had to pay to get an education.”

Falaiyee also shared that dealing with abuse for seven years made her attempt suicide.

She said: “The abuse went on for seven long years and was killing me – I was dying slowly.

“I attempted my first suicide at the age of 15, I remember that day vividly.

“It was the day of the Ikeja cantonment bomb and mummy (my aunt) wasn’t coming back that night.

“She had gone out and then there was news of the bomb blast, and she wasn’t coming back.

“It was just daddy and me at home and the neighbours came around to assure us that she would be back the following morning.

“GSM wasn’t popular at that time so there wasn’t any way to reach her.

“That night, as soon as everyone left, I knew it was going to be doom’s day because this time it was just going to be daddy and me and he was going to have a field day.

“And he did have a field day.

“This time, on their matrimonial bed.

“The next morning when my mother miraculously returned, this man was the first person to rush to the door, give her a kiss, and hug her.

“I was shattered inside.

“Wondering how this person did a double role.

“I went into the kitchen and picked up a knife.

“I didn’t know what to do with it.

“One part of my mind said: ‘Stab yourself,’ while another part of it said: ‘Go and stab him.’

“I was still trying to make the decision and I started slitting my wrist when my mum entered the kitchen.

“I quickly dropped the knife and told her that I was trying to arrange the plates I washed earlier.

“That was the day I could define depression because I didn’t know I can die slowly.

“It continued until I was 17.”

Falaiye also shared about her memoir: “The book: ‘Diamond in the rough,’ like I say, when you read it, you will cry for me, you will laugh because I try to not make it gloomy, then you will weep.”

She believes that the adversity she has faced has taught lessons.

She added: “The greatest lesson life has taught me is that life will never be fair and that God loves us in spite of all we ever go through.

“God knows all of it and at the end of it, it’s for a beautiful life and a higher calling.

“Life has also taught me that if you are a foreigner it’s going to give you a lemon and you could make lemonades from it, but if you are African, it will give you bitter leaves and you better make ‘ofeonugbu’ soup.”

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Igbo wedding attire by Gochiafrica on Etsy

Igba Nkwu Nwanyi is the Igbo traditional marriage ceremony celebrating love.

Most Igbos in the South Eastern part of Nigeria see Igba Nkwu Nwanyi (woman’s wine carrying) as the culmination of several months of traditional rites that are expected to have taken place before the groom along with his family and representatives of his community visit the bride’s family (including external family) in the presence of community elders. Igba Nkwu is the occasion that finally joins an Igbo man and woman as husband and wife.

Prior to this wonderful ceremony, the couple is considered to only be dating irrespective of whether they have declared their consent to each other until a formal declaration is made to the father of the bride through a process called Ikuaka (knocking).

Ikuaka is the first stage of the marriage process. When the groom informs his father of his intentions of marrying to a certain lady, the father in turn informs the eldest male-figure of his kinsmen or umunna as it is popularly known. What follows next is a discussion between the fathers for the date of the marriage; the father of the bride is now obligated to inform his kinsmen that a suitor was coming to ask for the hand of his daughter in marriage.

With the date agreed to and fixed, the groom along with his parents and a small select group of representatives from his Umunna, pay a visit to the home of his bride-to-be. At the event, the father of the groom explains the reason for their visit and their intention to marry one of their daughters.

After the customary welcome of the visitors and conversations between family representatives, the bride, who at this point is absent from this meeting, is then summoned by her parents and asked if she knows the groom; the intention of their visit and whether she consents to his marriage proposal. If she consents, then kola nuts are presented. And in a show of goodwill, the family of the groom presents small gifts to the family of his bride along with presents from their representatives 

KFImage: Newlywed couple celebrating. Source: Umu Igbo Unite 

The next step is to do a background check on the history of each family without the knowledge of the other. In the Igbo culture, it is referred to as Iju ese (Discovery of family history and background). In this situation, none of the parties is aware that such action is being taken. The purpose of Iju ese is to confirm that there is no negative history within each family tree that would present an embarrassment to any of the families or destroy the marriage of the couple

In the event the inquiries went well with no issues discovered, a date is fixed for the Imego (payment of bride-price) and in most cases, both the Imego and Igba Nkwu Nwanyi are done on the same day.

However, before the date, the groom is handed a list of items that are required by tradition from him to present to the umunna. On the day of the marriage, the groom comes with his family and friends along with the items and presents them to the umunna. From thereon, a select group of representatives of both families meet in a room to discuss the bride-price which is often miniscule. At this time, the father of the bride admonishes the groom to take good care of his daughter. 

Once the negotiations are concluded, both parties rejoin the other guests who have gathered for the Igba Nkwu Nwanyi celebration. This is the stage where the bride is handed a cup of wine and asked to hand it over to the man she has chosen as her husband. The bride and the groom then kneel before their parents to receive prayers for a blessed union.


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According to official data, there are more than 10 million Mormons in the world. There are some outlandish rumors about the followers of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. Harsh punishments for children for attending rock concerts, polygamy, domestic violence, billions of dollars in shady funds, etc. Do Mormons really do all this? 

Here are some very interesting facts about this religious cult.

1. Polygamy

The necessity of polygamy was allegedly revealed to John Smith, one of the founders of the Church of the Latter-day Saints, by God himself. The missionary had about 30 legal wives. Other Mormons are allowed to follow the “Smith Principle” and their discretion, but today, they’re all about a strong patriarchal monogamous family. However, according to the Fundamentalist Church, men must have at least three wives.

2. Family is a business

Mormon fundamentalists not only encourage polygamy but also “make money” from it. Since the US government recognizes only one marriage, other wives of fundamentalist Mormons with the status of single mothers receive monthly welfare from the state. What’s even stranger, polygamous women can move from one husband to another.

3. Mormons are tech-savvy

In addition to the official website, which has long become an integral part of any religious organization, the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints has its own social network. The “” resource offers users to meet Mormons from around the world, view other people’s profiles and tell about themselves. The site is translated into many languages and acts as one of the platforms through which new followers enter the organization. Here you can find the nearest meetinghouse on the map, chat online, order the Book of Mormon, or “learn more” about the life of Jesus Christ.

4. The 1% Mormons

Being Protestants, the Mormons know the value of money and how to do business. The American government also does not interfere with their activities since Mormons regularly pay up to 27% of their income to the treasury. Mormons own shares in the Los Angeles Times, a large portion of real estate in Utah, land in Hawaii, several radio stations and TV channels, and many other properties. According to official data, more than 4 billion dollars every year comes from just the minimum deductions.

5. The richest Mormon in the world

Modern church followers call Thomas Monson a prophet and bearer of divine revelations for a reason. Monson began his career as a humble teacher. Then he entered the publishing business, after which he worked for a long time in the advertising sphere. After getting a position in the church, Monson became the manager of Mormon enterprises “Bonneville International” and “KSL news.” At the peak of his career, Ronald Reagan appointed him as an adviser to the president, and in the 2000s, Monson already owned church assets totaling more than $20 billion.

6. Mormon women can’t wear pants

In the official Mormon church, the status of a housewife with stereotypical gender roles of a housekeeper is a tribute to tradition, but in the Fundamentalist Church, there’s a strict list of everything that women can and cannot do. For example, Mormon women must wear the famous hand-woven ankle-length dresses with pants and special underwear underneath. Mormon wives are forbidden to wear make-up, paint their nails, cut their hair short, and let it loose. Oh, and teenagers are excommunicated from the church for listening to rock music and having premarital relations.

7. Infiltrating the US government

Mormons on the inside are seriously counting on the presidential elections and a change in the country’s policy. The famous love story of presidential candidate Mitt Romney and his wife, Annie Romney, touched the hearts of millions of Americans. But this wasn’t enough to trump Michelle Obama’s image. Ordinary people were wary of the Romneys’ promises to ban abortions and restore the so-called “traditional family values.” Even though the election was lost, according to experts, Mormons will keep trying to rule the country by backing new candidates.

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