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MARRIAGE UPS AND DOWNS: LIKE ANNIE IDIBIA, LIKE CHIOMA ADELEKE

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Chioma Rowland

Annie Idibia, wife of legendary singer, Tuface and Chioma Adeleke, wife of superstar singer, Davido are bound by no form of ties, yet their fate in marriage seems to share an uncanny connection, as the two women have had to weather stormy times on account of their marriage to music stars who appear couldn’t keep their horses reined in.

Chioma Rowland had a full package of ‘Assurance” from her husband, Davido, at least, she’s the only one who has a claim of being legit among his other four baby mamas, which include Sophia Momodu, Amanda (Laplubelle), Larrisa Loreno and Ayotomide Labinjo.

If the Internet and social media banters are anything to go by, Davido and Chioma may be tying the nuptial knot next year, something they had planned to do before the Coronavirus put everything in the world on hold in 2020. But between 2020 and now, so much has happened between the couple even as rumour of their breakup rocked the social media. It has been a topsy-turvy affair all the way, with Davido streaming in and out of several love affairs, with Chioma almost always in the know as the social media would always rub it in her face.

Annie Idibia

Annie Idibia’s fate is not so much different from Chioma. Her husband has seven children from three different women, namely; Sumbo Ajaba and Pero Adeniyi. Much to Annie’s anguish and pain, the baby mamas continue to be a recurring decimal in her marriage to 2Baba. She openly voiced her frustration not too long ago when she accused the singer of still sleeping with one of his baby mamas.

Tuface Idibia had other children with other women while dating Annie Macaulay, even though he met her first. This much was revealed by Annie, when she was featured as a part of the celebrities on the Young, Famous and African reality show.

Annie Idibia, who broke down in tears, also revealed that her first child was Tuface’s 5th child even though she met him first before his other baby mamas.

“When you meet someone, and then you know them first, and then you wake up..two different people are having babies for him. And then he has five kids with other women…my first child is his fifth, and I met him before everybody..so you know what that is” Annie emotionally revealed.

Annie furthermore admitted that she had faced a lot of pains and hurt but had accepted that the good times were so much more, and she has forever with 2baba, for him to make up for the bad times. She believes that love is so much more than people say it is.

Both Annie and Chioma had endured so much on account of their love for their husbands but they are not the only ones. Most wives of popular male musicians have suffered the same fate.

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MUM’S ACTIVISM HAS COST CHILDREN LOTS OF OPPORTUNITIES –EZEKWESILI’S SON

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Chuba Ezekwesili is a Design Partner and co-founder of Akanka, a neo-traditional design studio with a mission to design everything – for peace, joy, and happiness.

Chuba Ezekwesili is one of the twin sons of former Minister of Education and ex-Vice President of the World Bank, Dr Obiageli (Oby) Ezekwesili. Chuba speaks to GODFREY GEORGE about his mother’s personality and core values.

Dr Obiageli (Oby) Ezekwesili.

What was it like growing up under your mother, Dr Oby Ezekwesili?

It was different. I would say it was real. We saw other children of our age with toys and games and all whatnot, but we grew up around books. Mum would come back from wherever she travelled to and our presents from that trip were tons of books and newspapers. She encouraged us to read newspapers and summarise books. It was like a mini boot camp. She didn’t let us watch certain TV programmes. So, when we went to school and heard our friends talk about a programme, we’d come back home and only wish we could watch such programmes. But I am glad that as we grew up, we saw the wisdom in what she did for us. I am super grateful for such a privilege to be trained by a woman like Oby Ezekwesili.

Were you born in Nigeria?

A lot of people ask us this question. My twin brother and I grew up in Surulere, Lagos. when we were age five, mum got exiled from Nigeria. It was during the late Sani Abacha’s regime. So, she was smuggled out of the country to Germany. My mum was one of the people who pushed against the military government. She was part of a group called the Concerned Professionals, and they constantly were at the forefront of the fight against dictatorship. That was a pretty difficult time for us because we didn’t get to see her for like five years. My dad was transitioning to becoming a pastor at that time. What that meant was that there was really no steady source of income at that time. Our grandmother was the one who took care of us at that time. It was a difficult time. We went from a middle-class family to a lower-class one. At a time, we had to ‘drink’ garri as a meal. In school, we would get called out on some days on assembly ground and flogged before we were sent home, just because we couldn’t pay fees. It was that bad (laughs). We have definitely been in that kind of a situation and our story will not be complete without sharing that aspect of it with the world.

Dr Obiageli (Oby) Ezekwesili and her twin boys

Were you able to regularly communicate with your mum in those five years?

We were quite young, so, what the family told us was that she wasn’t really going anywhere. You know how kids are. If they had told us where she was, perhaps, we would have spilled the beans and the people looking for her then would have got to her. We didn’t know much. So, we were just expecting her to come back till she had been gone for five years. At that time, our grandmother was our saving grace. She did such a fantastic job of being a mother when mum was not around. When we wanted to talk to mum, we would go to a phone booth down the road and use the landline to converse with her and play catch up.

What was the most memorable thing you remember your mum doing for you as a child?

That would be her teaching us. As a child, she always taught us. We were sure to learn from her whenever we were around her. Of course, she bought us clothes and stuff, but her teachings are a part of what shaped us into the persons we are today. We have a strong sense of value and a good concept of what the world was at a very early age. We were never influenced by bad behaviour. Whatever it was we were doing and knew was right, we just went ahead to do them. She inculcated us with the ability to understand our lives, and that was key.

What did your grandmother tell you about your mum’s growing up then?

I remember her telling me that growing up mum didn’t like bullies. If one was a bully, she would confront that person and a fight might start. She said my mum used to beat up boys in the community that were bullying others. She also said my mum always refused to go out to spend more time with friends as a child as she preferred being alone in the house, reading. She never socialised because she was always reading.  Her mother was a businesswoman based in Lagos, too. She used to sell at Aguda Market in Lagos.

She had a very supportive father. The typical Nigerian father of that time did not pay much attention to their girl child, but that was not the same for my mum’s dad. He paid special attention to our mum. She used to tell us that her dad is a huge reason she has turned out this amazing. His energy really influenced her life. He always encouraged her to put her mind to whatever she wanted to do and he was very supportive of her dreams, passions and aspirations.

Your mum is widely-recognised as an economic expert and leader. How does this feel for you as her son?

It just means we are a family of geniuses. It is really a thing of pride to know that the energy that came before me is brilliant and able to hold information, synthesise it and use it to make clear and rational decisions. It is always a good feeling. This also amazes me. We never get used to mum’s breadth and depth of knowledge. She knows almost any industry than most ministers would know that industry. She is very versatile.

Do you feel any weight of expectation to live up to your mum’s name when you are in public?

(Laughs) That is not our business, honestly. The last thing we would ever do is perform for anyone. If anyone has decided to create expectations around us, good for them. We are just ourselves. Her name is hers and we are proud of it and what she has done, but it doesn’t weigh us down. It is something that we live up to.

In what ways has her name opened doors for you?

(Laughs) Ah! Error! I think, for the most part, it has been quite the opposite, and I would cite a lot of instances. In a place like Nigeria that is hostile to people who speak out when others don’t want to speak out, it is certainly not to our advantage. My mum is known to immediately stand out in many interesting ways. I have lost a lot of job opportunities because of my last name. When I say you want to work in a certain firm and they see your surname, they ask to be sure it is her. When I say yes, the employers would go, “Ah! I don’t want wahala o!” It is not as rosy as people think it is. It is not entirely true, too, that we have not experienced goodwill as a result of her name, but when one is in a system, that system determines the energy that comes to one, especially if one is a fighter that people don’t like.

When we started our design company, we didn’t have our full names on our business cards. We just had Chine Ezeks and Chuba Ezeks. This is because having a full name just means we had to deal with much drama which was unnecessary.

Have there been times when people felt they owe you a favour because of what your mother once did for them?

Of course, yes. Our parents are very generous people. So, there have definitely been people who have offered us help in any way. The problem is that Chine and I are people who never really seek help from people. So, it can be a bit difficult because we barely seek help; so there are not many examples where we have had people help us. We have enjoyed the goodwill of her actions hundred per cent.

You are a creative person and you dance. How supportive has your mum been of your career?

You know my mum is an African woman. How many African parents are cool with their kids dancing, especially on camera? She is fine, I guess. We don’t really talk about it. We grew up under our father who is a pastor and we used to see him dance a lot. He dances so well, you can imagine he was the biblical David. Our dancing is a continuation of that energy of his, and I don’t think it is anything out of the ordinary. So, I am not sure he minds us dancing. We have been dancing since we were kids. In fact, a lot of people knew us as just dancers before they knew I was an economist and Chine is a sociologist. The thing is that we don’t dance professionally. We don’t dance for a fee. We just dance for fun. People say they want to pay us to dance.

Dr Obiageli (Oby) Ezekwesili and her family

What are some of your mum’s likes?

She loves Nigeria! That is on top of her list. She loves Jesus. She loves her family and her church, The Redeemed Christian Church of God a lot (laughs). She also loves to wear pearls, and people used to think it was juju because they always see her wearing them. But she just wears them because she likes them and my grandmother too used to wear them a lot when we were younger.

She loves integrity so much. Her dad and mum were like that so it was inevitable that she was going to turn out like that as well. I think we have always been a spiritual family, and that means we always recognise what the right thing to do was. We always strive to be better. Integrity was not one of those words that we threw around in our home. We recognise that integrity is everything. A lack of integrity brings fear, and we don’t want that. My mum being that way is the energy of the family. She always never failed to love people. She doesn’t care about your tribe. She accepts everyone and always makes room.

What is the one thing she dislikes the most?

There is this chapter in one of Governor Nasir El-Rufai’s books Accidental Public Servant devoted to my mother. She certainly dislikes cutting corners and lies.

How does she discipline you when you go wrong?

(Laughs) I am just trying to imagine it right now, and it is so funny. So, now, if, for example, there is something we do and she doesn’t agree with it, she goes to our family WhatsApp group and drops it there and we talk about it as a family and settle. She calls us, “Boo!” But when we were kids, it was the typical way African parents would discipline anyone.

Did she cane you?

(Laughs) She used to cane us and we used to cry, but all of that was done in love.

At the early point of her career at the World Bank, how was it like for you not having her around all the time?

We were in school and we were already used to her not always being around after the five-year hiatus. She was a Special Assistant to President Olusegun Obasanjo and was Minister of Solid Minerals (2005-2006) and Minister of Education (2006-2007), so we knew what to expect. We were in boarding school, and by the time she was going to the World Bank as Vice-President, we were finishing university in the United Kingdom and moved to DC with her. My dad was in Nigeria as a pastor, so when the appointment came, it was him who urged my mum to go on to the UK as he would try to make sure it worked as a family. He came over every summer. We would go to the market and dad would cook plenty food and put them in the freezer for mum, who would get back late from work, so she would have food at home to eat.

How does she show that she misses you now?

Hmmnn… She calls (laughs) and then makes a joke of us ‘forgetting’ our mother.

What is the most beautiful gift she has given you?

I would say it is the mindset she has given us. She really reemphasised the importance of us being ourselves and the strength in us, and that was very helpful. As grown-ups now, I see that some people do not know who they are; we never had to deal with that. We had a core sense of values. For physical gifts, it would be books. She was always willing to love.

She contested for the office of the President of Nigeria on the platform of the Allied Congress Party of Nigeria in 2019. How did you feel when you heard she wanted to contest? Did she tell you her plans?

Chine and I weren’t very pleased about that decision not because we didn’t support her running for the presidency; we just felt the timing wasn’t right, and that was because as designers, who pretty much design everything, we were aware of how much time it takes for a design to materialise. If one wants to design a masterpiece, one has to slow down. Jollof rice cannot be ready in five minutes; it would take time. That was our opinion at that time about it. But there were other people who were excited about the prospects of all that. We just felt she needed time to figure out the structure, finances, security and everything else, and we felt there wasn’t enough consideration around those. Apparently, we were right at the end of the day.

She later withdrew around January 2019, citing ‘divergence of values and visions with her political party’. How did you receive this news? Did you see it coming?

We told mum from the beginning of that election that if we saw that she was changing who she was, we would point it to her. We have always been an open family, and questioning our doings is a regular thing. So, around the time when the campaign was taking a toll on her physically, we could see that. We saw that she was not giving enough time, so the quality was not showing. The party, in my opinion, was a compromised one. They had no sense of values or structure or anything that was grounded. For us, we saw they were wishy-washy. We weren’t surprised when we found out that they were basically in existence to collect money. It was evident. It was also clear that they were the kind of party that’ll go for the highest bidder. Mum was running a values-driven campaign and there were no billions of corrupt money. It was clear that even if she had won that presidency, the party she won it on already had corruption smeared on their name. So, it wouldn’t have made any sense; she would have been handicapped. She saw this herself and said no. We had a conversation with her but she was already on the path to deciding to step down. Most people won’t do that. She stepped down knowing that it would come with a lot of criticism and ridicule and stuff like that. She stood for her value, and I am glad nothing shook that. We were happy when she stepped down because we knew there was nothing good that would come out of it.

Your mum had mentioned that her journey into politics was rough. Does she still have plans to go into politics?

She has plans, and they are already being implemented, and that is with her organisation, FixPolitics. Politics in Nigeria is indeed broken and needs to be fixed and that is what she is doing with FixPolitics. Out of that has come the School of Policy, Politics and Governance. As opposed to creating just one leader, she has decided to create an array of leaders, and I think that is her focus for now. The truth is that one person cannot change Nigeria.

If she tells you that she wants to contest for an elected office again, what would be your reaction?

We would support her fully. Who is better than her?

Your mum is nicknamed ‘Madam Due Process’. Did she tell you how she got this name?

This was when she was SA to the president. Mum was the one who designed the due process guidelines. Nigeria was a place where anything goes. So, when she came on board, she had to put structures and systems in place. The contractors then would just come and call any amount, and the government would give them the money. Mum could not understand that. So, she had to put the due process tags in place. Julius Berger suffered the most during our mum’s time. She would slash a lot of all those monies brought in for contract, and she would save the country millions of dollars. That was where the name came from.

How do you react when you hear untrue rumours about your mother?

We mostly ignore them. People know us to be calm when our mum is insulted on Twitter because we know all those things are untrue. Why stress myself and give myself mental anguish over a lie? What does that change? But then, what we are keen on doing these days is dispel a lot of rumours, because we have noticed that when people keep spreading these rumours, they begin to sound like the truth.

What is the worst you have heard so far?

Some people said it was mum who removed History as a subject from the school curriculum when she was Minister of Education. How? How is that even possible? Does it make any sense? Is it possible for a minister to singlehandedly remove a subject from the educational curriculum? So, the whole of Nigeria was watching while she did that and they did nothing? Wow! Can’t you see how stupid that sounds? That is pretty much a lie.

She is also a preacher like your father. Does this interfere with your relationship with her?

We even have a preaching engagement at the teenage section of my dad’s church so that makes us preachers as well (laughs). We are a spiritual family. We are inclined to preaching as well.

Did she tell you about how she met your dad?

They met at a mutual friend’s house. Mum was staying with a friend of hers who lived closer to the University of Lagos campus, where she schooled. She was too focused on her mission, which was school, so dad had to press her hard. It wasn’t love at first sight at all. It didn’t just spark.

They have been married for 34 years now. How does this feel when you look at their union?

I feel love whenever I watch them play. It is like I am watching a black romantic movie, and I can tell it is my story. Those guys have love, and it feels great. It is like we are in a beautiful movie, watching them love each other.

What is the most beautiful thing you have seen them both do together?

They work out together.

What are things you cannot do when your parents are around?

(Laughs) There are not many things that we do when they are not around that we can’t do when they are around. We design, read and sleep when they are around and when they are not. So, that is basically our life.

Your mum is into a lot of advocacy for the girl child, the underprivileged and women. How has her advocacy changed the way you viewed the world?

I think her activism informed our world. Growing up with mum and seeing her deep into advocacy sort of deepened our love for advocacy. We just see ourselves doing advocacy. We now see why advocacy makes a lot of sense. I think at the core of any of such advocacy is love and it extends to not just your children. Mum is a good empathiser and she carries people’s businesses on her head like they are hers.

What is her best food?

I think her best food is dad’s food. She doesn’t eat much of her food. She spends time eating dad’s food.

Is she an early riser?

She wakes up early, goes to the living room and prays before the normal morning devotion. It is like quiet time, but it is not always quiet. She does that every day.

What is the idea behind her dress sense?

African President! That is the energy. Our grandmother was a huge part of that inspiration. Our granny knew how to get the right person to do her clothes for her.

Is there a story behind her low cut?

She got tired of gelling her hair, I think.

What is her best colour?

Green.

What do you do if she is upset?

We talk about it. That is the starting point, and we reassure her that everything is going to be okay.

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HOW TO COPE WITH AN UNROMANTIC PARTNER

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Romance is one of the ways to sustain a relationship. Its importance cannot be underestimated as it strengthens love between partners.

Being romantic to one’s partner is about expressing love and being intentional about it in a way that is unmistakable. Expressing genuine love can be in diverse forms; paying attention to details, doing small things that matter, gestures, being clingy, telling one’s partner how they mean to one among many other beautiful things. However, the most important thing about being romantic is the intentionality and originality of all of the actions.

On her view about the issue, a graphics designer and wife, Hauwa Sanni, noted that being unromantic was relative, stating that the efforts the unromantic partner put into the relationship mattered a lot.

She stated, “I used to be the unromantic one in my marriage. It was tough because it’s a natural thing, getting mushy all the time does not work for me at all. Growing up, I never got to be that person who does sweet stuff. It sort of pisses me off. While we were still courting, my husband saw this and helped me.”

She noted that because she saw that she needed to be better, she started putting in the effort and things were becoming better.

She noted, “After we got married, I had a personal resolve to start becoming better. I would write love notes and place them in his box which he takes with him to the office. I would stay all by his side when we were at public events and when he saw the efforts, he became even more romantic and I can gladly say that he made me a better person.

“And to be clear, I wasn’t like that when it all started, I’ll always be distant at parties, not extremely distant but not like having his arms over my shoulder. I don’t see those things as important but because I was ready to become better, his intentions were rewarded.”

Sanni noted that coping with an unromantic partner depended on the unromantic partner because it would be biased if one was not willing to match up the energy being exerted by the other party.

On his part, a bank worker, Festus Agu, told our reporter that he cannot cope with an unromantic partner.

He said, “How would I invest my all and the person would not return even as little as sending me romantic texts? That’s not something one should accept. Before I got married, I had a courtship that failed because the ladies were not putting in the effort. Being unromantic is something I can’t cope with.”

Agu stated that unromantic partners were like deadwood and only made things harder in homes.

He noted, “When the home is going through a difficult period, romance can be a way of salvaging and saving the home. That little appreciation and affirmation from your partner can keep you going and set you over obstacles. For me, being romantic isn’t about sex, it’s about genuinely showing love to one’s partner.

Agu stated that his wife was unromantic at first, stating that had become better.

Also, a nurse, Biola Mathew, noted that dealing with an unromantic partner was huge, adding that one had to understand that people cannot be the same.

She noted, “I’m a lovey-dovey person and got married to someone who is always glued to work and barely has time to do the things. Even when he has time, he does not. It was hard when we got married because I tried to change him but as time progressed, I got to understand him and we are living in absolute unison.”

Commenting on the issue, a relationship expert and counsellor, Ganiyat Akanbi, noted that many unromantic people do not intentionally become unromantic, stating that certain things made them that way.

She said, “With my experience, I have realised that many people who find themselves in this situation were products of some experiences and that has reshaped their thoughts. Following the natural order, it’s normal to do these little things but many people were victims of certain circumstances.

“However, we have learned that these people can also regain their natural being only when they are open. Yes, a lot of times, we have seen people become better but some people are completely shut out and would continue to be the same.”

She noted that the other partner had to understand the differences to have a lasting relationship and a beautiful home.

She stated, “Many partners nag a lot about what their other half cannot do and most times, compare with another family but I can assure you that it won’t solve the problem. Some persons have become completely shut that one has to be totally softened to bring them back from where they are.

“When you compare your partner with others, nag at all times, the partner, in his/her human-like behaviour would not take you seriously. Why? Because you do not have trust or confidence in them, even if they are the type that could be easily influenced, that would make them harder to break. Partners have to understand these differences and only then would they attain bliss.”

Also dwelling on the issue, a marriage counsellor and relationship expert, Durojayeola Philip, said that humans were generally different.

He said, “I used to have a friend who would always do things effortlessly for other people. When you have events, he would be around a few days before. But I realised I was not like that. The only thing I would do is to help financially.

“So, there was a time he was to bury his father and I got there on Saturday and he got angry with me that why was I not there as early as Thursday because if the situations were different, he would have been days earlier. He got angry and after the burial, he realised that I gave him the most money as support for the burial. He asked why I was always contributing financially to people’s occasions and our other friends explained to him that humans are different and have different ways of communicating their loyalty.”

Philip noted that his situation with his friend mirrored what happens in love, relationships and marriages.

He stated, “We have people that don’t talk. They as well don’t know how to write beautiful words or make fantastic love gestures. But deep down, they are in love and their actions will tell you this. They might not be romantic how you want but the love they have is uncompromising.

“When you say someone is unromantic, it is relative, and it depends on the individual’s definition of being romantic. If someone gives me a flower or writes love notes, I won’t appreciate it because I don’t give it as well. It means nothing to me and that’s not my own definition of being romantic.’’

He urged partners to study themselves to know what the love language of their partner to be able to cope.

He said, “Everyone on earth has a love language, their own mode of being romantic and one needs to understand this then flow along with them. Some people appreciate books. It is their way of being romantic. Another person may just want to sit next to you and watch movies. They don’t like going out. Inasmuch as you understand individual differences, there won’t be problems. Observe your partner’s body language, flow along with it and you will be able to unlock that part of them.

“State of mind sometimes may be the reason someone is being unromantic. I always say that there is no one on earth that is not romantic; it’s just left for one to unlock it. If you study their state of mind, you will be able to identify how they want to be related with.

“The upbringing of your partner also matters. Make sure you understand what your partner has passed through, some people have passed through things and some of the experiences do not allow them to express their love again. If only you know what they went through, you will be able to cope and deal with their situation.’’

He noted that he recently counselled a lady raped by her uncle, continued living with him and couldn’t tell her father. Philip said, “With the experience, how would such a person not feel cold? She told me that her partner complains about her not being romantic but it’s a result of the traumatic experience she had.

“I advised her to open up to the partner because it was becoming too serious. She gets regular flashbacks such that when they want to make love, she gets defensive thinking the partner wants to rape her. This was due to past experience. A partner may want to look into the past experiences and where they are coming from to cope with them.

“Observation is important, no matter how vile one is, he or she will have a soft spot. A partner has to understand this. Being romantic is relative and it differs from person to person.’’

The marriage counsellor added that if a partner’s attention was only focused on his or her definition of romance, there would be problems in the union except the person looked beyond such a preference.

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MONITOR WHAT YOUR CHILD WATCHES ON SCREEN

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Monitor Your Child and Wards

The long holidays are over and children are settling into the new academic session, activating school tasks, getting to know their new class teachers and meeting some new classmates. This is not a time however; to put in so much attention on screen, hence screen time will be reduced.

While children still find time to watch TV or surf the Internet, (Youtube) or Netflix, parents should endeavour to know and understand the message passed in the children series and cartoons made available for their consumption.

A more efficient approach is to curate what your child is already interested in and afterwards, introduce him to some new shows that you find appealing and add value.

TV Parental Guidelines have two elements. The first refers to the audience it’s suited for and the second will rate the content. Here is a breakdown:

Audience

Y: All children including ages 2 to 6. Content will not frighten the little ones.

Y7: Age seven or above. Content may frighten little children.

Y7-FV: Seven or above with Fantasy Violence.

G: General Audience. It doesn’t necessarily mean that the content is for children, but most parents would find it suitable for all ages.

PG: Parental Guidance Suggested. Recommended that you watch the programme with your child because some situations may raise questions for your little ones.

PG-13, TV-14: Parents Strongly Cautioned. Strongly urged to monitor the program because it may contain intensely suggestive dialogue, violence, sexual situations or strong language.

It is important to note that TV commercials are not required to have ratings, so even if you feel sure of the content of the programme, you may still want to keep an eye or an ear out. Also, ratings on shows vary from episode to episode.

To help you decide what cartoon or movie your child watches, first its age-appropriateness is important. If your child is old enough to understand, use this as an opportunity to teach him about the rating system. When your child understands the reason behind the things we do, they’re more likely to take a cooperative stance. Not only are you protecting him from undesirable content, he is also becoming an advocate for himself.

The characters as positive role models should also be an interest. Children model behavior and are influenced by what they see including what they watch on TV. When watching a show, ask yourself if you would like your child to model the character in the movie, else, it is time to stop your child from constantly watching that movie.

What is the structure or storyline; watching a movie or an episode of a cartoon is not the same as watching an endless stream of thirty-second TikTok videos or an hour of a kid unboxing toys. Hence, look for programmes that have an introduction, problem solving, and an ending. Think of Paw Patrol or Sofia the First it follows a storyline and even have cues for the introduction and ending of the show.

Once you’ve made sure that whatever they’re currently watching aligns with your family values, you can introduce new shows. Your family values, beliefs, and your way of parenting can either be supported or challenged by what your child is seeing on TV.

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